Do you welcome change?

Change and uncertainty.

When illness comes into our lives, it often forces us to realise how little we control.

Before we could rely on our bodies. But now it is difficult to predict what we will be possible tomorrow, next week or next month.

Time shifts. Goals feel more distant.

The roles and achievements around which we have built our lives and identities may begin to feel as if they belong to someone else entirely.

This loss of predictability naturally gives rise to worry about the future: whether finances will hold, whether plans can still unfold, whether life will ever return to something familiar.

Medical and scientific uncertainty

In response, we often turn to medicine and science, hoping they will give us clarity as to what comes next. Yet sometimes the causes and nature of symptoms are accompanied by an uncertainty that medical tests and diagnoses cannot easily resolve.

Medical test results often come back normal and scientific research often points to generalisations that can be hard to confidently apply to an individual’s situation.

Potential reasons why medical tests come back negative

Medical tests understand the body by looking at small parts separately.

Functional symptoms are best understood by looking at how the body/person/environment is working together as a whole.

There is a rare localised disease process that has not yet been discovered yet.

This is where your mind might go first. (Especially if you suffer with health anxiety). But it is not the only, or even the most likely, reason for a negative test result.

Medical tests only show results which are outside of a statistical ‘normal range’.

If bodily functions are dysregulated, measurements might all be within the normal range, but highs and lows might occur in the wrong situations, which can cause symptoms.

When things go wrong with bodily functions it may be a problem of timing.

Many medical tests provide a snapshot or image frozen in time. Problems with timing, co-ordination, or communication between different body processes are often invisible in the lab.

Symptoms could be memory traces.

We can wake up with a symptom today just because we had the symptom yesterday. If symptoms persist in this way, they can’t be detected by looking at the body. Medical tests usually cannot “see” memory traces in the body or brain.

Read our Guide to Navigating Healthcare when tests come back normal

Bodily uncertainty

When there is doubt about the cause and nature of symptoms, this can usettle our sense of being at home in our bodies.

People experiencing persistent symptoms often describe how this uncertainty can become deeply personal, even existential. A body with symptoms can feel unfamiliar, alien and anxiety provoking.

As you tune into the body, sensations themselves begin to reveal their fluid nature. They move, change shape, vary in intensity.

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Broadly speaking, we tend to respond to uncertainty in two ways.

1. Resisting and fixing

One response is to try and resist or find a fix for uncertainty.

For some, this takes the form of constant research—searching for explanations, new treatments, or a definitive answer.

A resisting and fixing approach can be a source of energy, but it quickly becomes exhausting.

The body remains in a state of high alert, driven by an urgent need to make symptoms stop.

Over time, this stress response can intensify symptoms rather than relieve them.

2. Accepting change

Another approach is to allow symptoms to be present, at least for now, and to recognise the natural fluctuations of symptoms as part of life.

Acceptance is not resignation. It is a practical response to the constantly changing nature of reality.

Acceptance allows us to be with bodily sensations, without fixing our interpretation or reaction.

It allows you to relax, to treat yourself with kindness, and to step out of emergency mode. As expectations shift, new choices and possibilities can emerge.

Terence's experience

Accepting the fact that though I feel better today, I might feel a little worse later, has been important.

However, if I chart my progress over time, it has indeed been a steady move forward. It’s been important to look at the bigger picture in recovery, as opposed to the day to day picture I am used to looking at when recovering from a common illness such as flu.

Whereas I was initially in a state of panic and confusion over symptoms, I can now reassure myself that this will pass and I will feel better.

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What acceptance looks like

  • If you observe closely, you may notice that symptoms are always shifting—different in the morning than in the evening, changing with hormonal cycles or seasons.
  • Acceptance means acknowledging where you are within a larger process of change.
  • It may involve slowing down, re-evaluating priorities, and allowing life to look different for a time.
  • Relaxation plays a key role here. When the body is calmer, this creates the conditions where symptoms can become objects of curiosity rather than fear
  • As you tune into the body, sensations themselves begin to reveal their fluid nature. They move, change shape, vary in intensity.
  • With gentle attention, movement, and breath, it becomes possible to notice this changeability and even find something hopeful within it.